Relationships are either built out of stone, or else built on sand, which later falls beneath the broken hearts in the world, and the pattern continues. When a relationship is built on stone the foundation often stands, since love, trust, honesty, communication and other elements that compose a relationship continues throughout the terms of the commitment. On the other hand, the relationships built on sand lack the elements required to make love grow and the relationships stand.

The people in relationships that intend to love their partner as they would love them self, by respecting the partner are good relationships that last. Bad relationships are built on "You trust me, but I decide if I will trust you." Selfishness composes bad relationships, since one or both parties are out for gain, rather than to give and share.

Selfishness is an egotism state of mind where the person feels that some owes him/her something. Rarely do they consider what they owe; rather they believe that the world is forever in debt to him or her. When a person feels the world owes them, they often lack consideration, respect, loyalty, faithfulness, and commitment. The egotistic minds often-base relationships with family, friends and mate on what can I get from you. At the onset of a bad relationship, the joining mate with egotistical thinking will lead the mate on, making him or her believe good intentions come with the partner. In other words, the person leads the mate to believe that he or she has the best interest of the partner and of the relationship in mind. Often this type of relationship will move along fast, since the partner with egotistical thinking strives to prevent the other mate from noticing the real intentions.

These types of relationship are built on sexual interest rather than true love. As the relationship progresses the mate believing that good intentions were intended at the beginning often find out when it is too late the relationship is heading down a dead end road, with only one partner working.

Different relationships in the world boil down to good or bad relationships. When two people join in intimate relations, both parties must work hard to make the relationship work. A bad relationship will utilize tools believing that the mechanisms will keep the spice in his or her life when they feel tired out of the mate. In other words, a bad relationship focuses on sexual gratification, which never occurs, since he or she tires out quickly. The person may engage in pornographic reading or viewing, promiscuous relationships, violence, and so forth to gratify the desire.

The love given by these people are superficial love that focuses on gain. Desire is the seated root of their intention and thus, they will lack the elements that make love work. Few egotistical types change over time, while others become more aggressive and seek harder to gratify their desires. The ultimate desire of these people is to please self, while taking what they can get from others and at the same time manipulating others into believing they are good souls.

If you are searching for love and relationships, the World Wide Net, bars, and other unsafe areas are not the place to search. Some people go to Church hoping to find their soul mate, but even churches pose threats, since true worship is un-existing. Thus, when searching for love and relationship take the wise word of caution, and heed to the voices of the past that tell you, love will come when you are least expecting it to arrive. Thus, you do not look for love; rather love will come to you if you allow room for it to arrive.

Loneliness is one of the key tools that land hungry souls in bad relationships. Bad relationships are neglecting, failure directed, and sometimes abusive. If you are in a relationship and your partner is out for self-gain, thus take warning now, since in most instances failure is the path you will walk. Some self-seeking souls may turn violent, or frequently neglect their mate. The partner will disrespect, and place ongoing doubt in the mind of the partner, until a breakdown occurs, and sometimes the breakdown is by emotion.