Finding your dream date is tough, but you could be making it harder on yourself. You're hot, you're fun, you have a cool hob and big circle of friends – in other words, you're the whole package. Then why the hell can't you meet a Miss or Mr. Right? We often subconsciously give off 'keep give off 'keep away' signals, say experts. Well, here are some common goof-ups that I have been referred at online dating site Online Dating Guide/Expert. It's time you rectified them as soon as possible.
You hang with a big group of buddies : When going on a hunt, you may feel better bringing a backup. But, the problems is surrounding yourself with a posse makes you unapproachable. It's intimidating for them. They might be scared off at the prospect of being rejected in front of an audience. To make yourself available, go out with just one friend or separate from the crew at the venue and work your way out.
You hang hit the same places: How many times have you found yourself saying, "Ugh, there are no cute guys/girls here?" And yet, the following week, you're back at the same bar, with the same people, saying the same thing. If your want to find them, venture outside of your comfort zone. The next time a pal invites you to a film class or suggests you hit karaoke night at some dive, give it a shot.
You give some guys/girls the cold shoulder: When you're eyeing an attractive person and some so-so dude/ babe starts chatting you up, you're probably tempted to blow them off. But that could actually backfire. If the object of your affection sees you acting rude, they will move on to a person who isn't as rude, warn experts. Not only that, but the B-list boy/girl could actually turn out to be cool. So, unless they act like a sleaze, give the person a break and talk to them. If they still leave you cold, politely excuse yourself and move on.
You refuse to be set up: You whine about how hard it is to meet a man/woman, yet you veto any friend who tries to hook you up and you won't even try online dating. You need to open yourself up to any opportunity. Spread the word around that you want to be set up. And, at least log on to a dating site and see who's out there. If you click with a guy/girl, great; if not, then you don't even have to endure a bad blind date.
You're too intent: its fine that you want to meet someone, but you don't want to be so obvious about it. The other sex can always sense desperation, warn experts. Most of us will steer clear of a people they think is dying for a partner. In addition, being on such a mission can make you self-conscious. You become so fixated on how you look and act that you can't enjoy yourself.
The goal should be to have fun, not meet dream partners. The irony: Your laidback vibes will at tract them anyway.